Here's another nugget of excellent advice, courtesy of Time of Grace
. While it does not yet relate to me personally, it may sometime down the road when/if me and my wife have children. It's something every father and future-father needs to know:
"There's a reason why children retell stories about bogeymen and monsters under their beds. It's because they know their world is scary and dangerous and they need to know that there is a place for them where they can be safe. Daddy's strength is a huge wall holding off the monsters to give them time to grow up.
Where does Daddy get his strength from? In the earlier part of his life, Solomon was still following the miraculous wisdom that God gave him. He shares an important insight about family security: "He who fears the Lord has a secure fortress, and for his children it will be a refuge." (Proverbs 14:26). God's Word and wisdom help men to control their sinful and violent impulses, and his divine forgiveness helps a man to be a patient, disciplined, and kind husband and father.
A little girl needs a daddy who thinks she is a princess, beautiful and precious. If her heart is secure in that manly admiration, she doesn't have to throw herself at bad boys for attention when she's a teenager. Little boys need a daddy who shows them that real strength is shown in self-control, self-discipline, and self-sacrifice. The feeling of manhood is not automatic -- it needs to be conferred by another man.
A man who is strong in the Lord will know how to be strong for his family.""